Such a Loser

Last night, I wanted to watch America's Got Talent. I know--mind-numbing banality. Drivel, as my dad would have called it. But I've had a crazy week, and I needed that mental downtime.

My kids had a different idea. They decided the family should go for a walk. What started out as a fun, little jaunt through a nearby neighborhood turned into a 90 minute adventure. By the time we returned home, we were exhausted. But we were able to catch the last five minutes of AGT.

Perfect timing, it turns out, as we caught the very end of the results show. It was down to two acts--a comedienne and a rapper duo. I didn't really give a fig about either one, but having had stage experience, I get caught up in those kinds of moments. The judges--now four in number (whoever thought up that plan should be fired!)--were allowed to choose the act, and of course, tied. So it came down to "America's votes."

As the show dragged out those last few moments--as they always do--the rapper duo kept pointing toward the comedienne. They were showering her with support, although you knew in that instant, they really wanted to hear their names called whenever Nick Cannon decided to give the results.

The comedienne was chosen.

The rapper duo ran over to her, wrapped her in hugs and smiles, and cheered her on. And yes, being a sap, tears sprung to my eyes.

How very glad I am my kids were watching along with me. This turned into a teachable moment about good sportsmanship. Lately, my kids have been playing board games. These events always turn into disasters, as they cry and whinge when they lose. So we had a great discussion about graceful losing. I asked them to remember that visual from the television. What a lovely image.

And it's one that I need to remember while I'm pursuing an agent and a publishing contract. While I see other authors out there getting deals, I need to be supportive and encourage them with words of congratulations. When I receive rejection letters, I need to internally respond with grace and not bitterness. It's a good lesson to learn.

Who knew two rappers would teach such a valuable lesson? I hope I can be such a loser.